What Can You See
In The Face Of A Child?
By: Julie Cox (Face Reading Expert)
Author, "Beginning Face Reading"
you look at the moon, do you see a chunk of rock in space or a face
in the heavens? Did you ever wonder why we identify constellations
by giving them human and animal names? Stargazers fixate on the faraway
lights in the night sky. Ordinary people look at faces.
From the time we are born, our outsides begin to form and shape themselves
to reflect our insides. Children understand this. They carefully scan
the faces of every approaching individual to determine whether they
are friend or foe. They search the eyes, and in a heartbeat, make
a judgment about whether to approach or flee. They are not fooled
by a set of sweetly smiling lips, or by a syrupy voice promising candy.
Our little people have a built in survival mechanism that allows them
to see inside the soul of another without bias, to scan every passing
How do they do this? What do they see? Why don't adults retain this
ability? What have we forgotten with the passage of years? The answers
to these questions become clear when we examine the minute details
of individual faces to see what the characteristics mean, instead
of just the expressions. The image a person wants us to see if often
very different from who the person actually is. Our faces become what
we truly are and sometimes, our faces predict what we may become.
is a language contained in the features on a face. Each feature on
a face correlates to a certain personality trait. Once you develop
an understanding of the meaning behind the features, you will see
why we perceive others as we do. You will understand by simple observation,
that the correlations of the shapes and sizes and their definitions
are quite reliable.
If you are a parent, teacher or caregiver for children, it is immensely
instructive to understand the meanings of the physical aspects of
a face. Knowing the meaning of the facial features will help you to
understand what kids see in other kids and why they perceive others
as submissive or naïve. Or why others are seen as independent
and strong. It will help you to spot the strengths and limitations
that are beginning to form.
Look at a baby's face, with the big, round eyes, the small nose, the
big full lips. There have been few external incidents that have influenced
their appearance. That is where it begins - a blank canvas, upon which
the experiences of our lives are painted until the day we die. Facial
features are inherited genetically and are shaped and molded by parental
example in your early home experience. Two thirds of the basic characteristics
result from behaviors adopted during childhood. The remainder is developed
in the adult years.
Even as an adult, you know that your face can change almost daily.
When a child absorbs even a small portion of a given trait, it will
simultaneously make itself seen through the corresponding feature
to reveal a very clear picture of what is going on and those events
which led to or reinforced the trait. Learning to read facial features
will help you to recognize when a child is developing response patterns,
which move him or her inward or away from true balance. Once a negative
or unbalanced trait becomes ingrained into the personality, there
will be a pressing need to modify or counter balance it in some way.
You can learn to recognize this before a child starts to act out.
You can guide the child to change the behavior before it becomes a
habit that is even harder for them to break. Conversely, you can learn
to spot a child's strengths and develop those.
There are other recognizable features that tell you that a child
is "borrowing" traits from another, or trying on different
faces to see how they fit. The reasons for selecting certain faces
or features can vary. For instance, in some case, a child needs extra
stamina or cleverness.
Benefits derived form reading the faces of children (and adults)
are that it provides a concrete form of proof that certain life events
can be seen through the face. Recognize the features and understanding
the factors that contribute to their formation will give you a better
understanding of a child's overall development. It will give you the
tools to assist in the development that must accompany the child in
his or her journey to adulthood.
Nothing is more beautiful than the brilliance and color of a human
soul, which radiates through the face. The face of a child is painted
with wonder and enthusiasm. Nothing is more powerful and more moving,
than connecting all humanity, young or old, through the common language
of face reading.
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